Friday, 27 September 2013
pre-ordering "Children of Hoarders"
There's a new book being published next January entitled "Children of Hoarders", and available for pre-order now at www.bookdepository.co.uk. Personally I'm delighted that something is available now for people like me who grew up with a hoarder mother. Not all keep rotting food etc, that's a subset on it's own.
It's easy to not understand what an impact this has if your parent was hoarding while you're a child - it would be bad enough if it starts once you're a young adult. With time & distance I'm in a much better headspace about this than I was in the past but a younger friend has been dealing with it too, and is still in the head-churny stage. I went through that when I realised that not only was my mother a little bit difficult but that it had been an abusive relationship and was a lot wrong.
I do have some of the unhelpful thought patterns of hoarders (seeing the potential in things & feeling somewhat responsible for their becoming reality), but I've worked hard most of my life to overcome actual hoarding. I still have too much stuff, but having read "Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things" I know now recognise that those thought patterns are far from helpful & working through them.